Another One

12 Feb

I rarely comment on pop culture.  Not because I don’t follow it, but because I’m mostly bored by the travails and triumphs of the famous kind.  Except for Meryl Streep.  She’s a goddess. I still read People magazine and I always check out the entertainment section of any news.  I so don’t care who Jennifer Aniston is dating.  Leave the poor girl alone and let her date.  I am interested in fashion but not in their politics.  I’m a moviephile, but I don’t care of their lives outside of the characters they play.  Again, except for Meryl Streep.

Having said all that, I read Whitney Houston died and felt that pang of sadness.  I know the world mourns the loss of her talent.  It’s tragic that someone who seems to have had it all at her fingers could become a victim of her addictions.  We do not know the cause of death yet, but everyone is holding their breath just knowing it’s drug related.  Having a mother who is a full blown addict (even though she thinks a prescription means it’s not addiction), we’re always waiting for the time she takes an extra pill or increases her intake from three pain pills and three anti-depressants a day to an overdose or worse.  I consulted an addiction specialist who advised me to mourn her as if she’s already passed.  He assured me that unless she’s willing to seek treatment, there is absolutely nothing I can do but to demand her sobriety or I am no longer in her life.  So my sister and I did it.  Now, we just wait for the phone call.

I have sympathy for anyone who is beholden to addiction.  It really isn’t a switch that can be shut off.  It’s devastating not only to the people around them, but to themselves.  I don’t believe in rock bottom, I believe it’s so much lower than that.  I can’t imagine what my mother goes through every day in order to medicate herself to the point of comfort.  I don’t believe it’s a choice she makes any longer.  But there is a choice to get help.  When your family and friends beg you to go into rehab, you are making a choice not to.  Of course, she isn’t making decisions with a sober mind, but I do believe she sees the destruction she’s caused to those around her and no longer cares.

Yet, as I read Whitney Houston passed away, I thought about those Powell boys who were murdered by their father.  That really is a true tragedy.  They were innocent and subjected to their father’s evil.  Who knows what talents they might have possessed or what they might have contributed to the world.  It will never be known now.

I just remember shaking my head when Amy Winehouse drank herself to death.  Just another in a long list of talented, famous people who succumb to their addictions.  So, after watching the train wreck Whitney Houston became (and it was like watching a train wreck if you ever saw her reality show), she’s added to that list.  I often wonder what it’s going to take to convince these troubled minds to live to a ripe old age.  


7 Responses to “Another One”

  1. David M. Green February 12, 2012 at 10:52 am #

    All one can do is step out of the way and let em plunge over the cliff. Down through the years after learning how many men are put through the wringer in Family Court and seeing it first hand with my youngest brother. I have learned not to judge the few extremely few men who snap and kill their ex wives and children too harshly. Many more men only take their own lives and there far more women than the feminists are willing to admit that kill their own husbands and children in cold blood. Yet virtually no one in our society in a position to do something about it gives a damn.

    • Cold Dead Heart February 12, 2012 at 6:53 pm #

      I suppose it doesn’t matter who is doing it. It’s a tragedy of epic proportion. I think people will do whatever is in their nature at extreme moments in their life. It’s just sad it hasn’t been able to be prevented.

  2. Wondering Wanderer February 12, 2012 at 11:05 am #

    You are never completely cured from an addiction, you are ina continual state of recovery. And you’re absolutely correct, there comes a point where getting help no longer seems like an option. But as long as you are breathing, there is hope, however slim.

    I also agree with you on the social lives (and “political” views) of so called ‘celebrities.’ They are no better than the rest of us, so why are they given so much credence?

    • Cold Dead Heart February 12, 2012 at 6:55 pm #

      I guess it’s the spotlight that gives celebrities the hubris and the platform with which to share their views. We’re all entitled to an opinion, I just don’t give theirs anymore weight than I do anyone else.

      You’re right, there is always hope. Let’s hope these recent deaths from accidental drug overdoses will be the wake up call that people need.

  3. njfawcett February 13, 2012 at 9:11 am #

    I was shocked and saddened by the news about Whitney but, as you say, it was hardly a surprise. What does make people, who seem to have so much going for them, destroy themselves like this?

    • Cold Dead Heart February 13, 2012 at 10:06 am #

      Isn’t it sad that you have the ability to do what you love and yet you still can’t be happy? It just makes me redouble my efforts to find joy and happiness every day. I can’t imagine being so miserable I’m willing to throw everything away, including my life, to avoid reality.

  4. myshadowthoughts April 9, 2012 at 10:22 pm #

    Very, very well written! In an attempt to answer your question: it takes a want, a willingness, and a vision of something greater to escape the clutches of addiction. I am a recovering heroin addict who celebrated fifteen months clean on April 1, 2012. Dare I bring God into this: I couldn’t have done it without him. Today, I am a writer and survivor. Thank you for sharing your writing with me!

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